What I Learnt From Reading “City of Girls”

"At some point in a woman's life, she just gets tired of being ashamed all the time. After that, she is free to become whoever she truly is."

Photos: Aigerim Ostapenko

This is my favourite quote from the book "City of Girls" by Elizabeth Gilbert. It's also the biggest gift that hair loss has given me. Not to care what others think and truly accept myself.

Sometimes I walk on the street and see unusually friendly smiles or eyes looking at me a little longer, and I remember, "Oh yeah, I forgot that I have no hair."

I have never thought that I could feel this way, but hair really doesn't add anything or take away from your beauty. Being beautiful is a feeling inside.

There are days when I wake up feeling sad, and hair is just another excuse to feel even sadder. Since I have been a baldie, I never looked into the mirror and got sad because I look like Dr Evil, the sadness was already there.

Then there are days when I feel great, give myself a wink in the mirror and say, "Yep, I still got it."

We always have a choice in life. To be the victim of our circumstances or just freaking live our life the best way we can.

Remember, your life can change in a heartbeat. It can crumble and shatter. Life as you know it might not be here tomorrow.

It can also take positive turns. The sadness you are feeling right now might be wiped away miraculously.

Miracle = shift in perception.

It is all more possible than you think.

You might look back to the day you were complaining about the mundane life and wish that you could get it back. This mundane life you once had might become your wildest dream.

Or you might look back to the moment you felt confused and frustrated and wish you would not have wasted a single minute on worry because it all worked out perfectly.

Somehow this life always has the best plans for us, even when it’s hard to see it. Don't waste it on doubt and worry.