About vulnerability hangovers

The most common feedback I often hear about my writing, whether from friends or writing groups, is that I'm so honest. And it still surprises me when people notice it, not because I don't believe my writing is honest, but because how else do you write personal stories?

I don't know how to write and not give an intimate close-up. I believe memoir writers can't leave out essential parts; then, it is better not to write at all. Recently, I read a memoir where the author was leaving behind clues, but not for the sake of a buildup and then the reveal at the end, but pretty much writing, "Something huge happened at the same time in my life, but I'm not going to tell you." The rage I felt! I have the right to know; I'm a reader! I'm half joking, but only half, because I felt disappointed that I wasn't important enough to be trusted with this information.